Being a teenager is one of the coolest and most frustrating times of life. On the one hand, you’re being super creative and are full of ideas that are all your own! On the other, it’s like no one gets it, listens, or allows you to grow up.
How are you supposed to figure out who you are if you don’t get a chance to try it out? How can you have a voice if you’re dismissed with the labels “young” or “immature”?
We admit it’s been a while since we went through adolescence, but we remember it was challenging then, let alone what it’s like now. Which is sad because it could be awesome! We want to hear you: all of who you are, what you believe, and why you believe it. Where you want to go and what stands in your way. From our experiences with young adults, we know you have better insights and ambitions than you get credit for.
Listen, we get that we’re adults and won’t always understand. We also get that we won’t always agree. BUT, we know we can accomplish some pretty cool things together, mainly by helping you feel good about being you, whoever that may be!
We can explore:
What happens in the first meeting is the same as for any client but confidentiality is different for you. Here’s how:
1. If you are under 16, your parent or guardian has the right, by law, to all the information we discuss.
BUT, as part of that first meeting, we let your parent or guardian know that you won’t tell us ANYTHING if you think we’re just turning around and telling them. So, we negotiate what things are to tell and what aren’t. Just so you know though, anything about hurting yourself or someone else, we have to tell them.
Then, we’ll talk about the game “Telephone”. You know, where you whisper a phrase to someone next to you and by the time it gets to the last person, it’s messed up? Well, I hate that game when it comes to therapy. So, we’ll recommend you share stuff from therapy (like strategies or what you’re feeling) directly with your parent or guardian so we don’t mess it up. We’ll be there to support you with it if needed, but it has to come from you.
We also suggest we meet with your parents once in a while to discuss what we’re working on. Not details, just strategies. C’mon. They worry. And you know how parents get when they worry…
2. If you are 16 and over, we have to determine if you are something called a “mature minor”. Basically, you have to answer questions like are you clear about your values and beliefs, can you understand what therapy is going to be about and the consequences of it, do you have some freedom to make decisions on your own, etc.
Usually, at 16, you’ll be treated as an adult. We wouldn’t be able to tell your parents ANYTHING without your consent. That means responsibility for your therapy is yours completely.
BUT, we still recommend you give your parents a break and fill them in once in a while. AND, if you tell us you might do some serious harm to yourself or someone else, we have to tell. It’s the same for all my clients.
Other than those differences, therapy is the same. We talk, we use strategies, we learn about what it means to be you.
After, you might begin to notice:
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