Sciency bit: even though our brains are wired to look for the negative (What? Ugh!), you can train yours to work in a way that allows more of the positive in. Current thinking has moved away from the term self-esteem and more into self-compassion and self-trust. We’ll use this research (from Brené Brown and Kristen Neff, for example) some mindfulness skills (combined with traditional talk therapy), and possibly hypnosis or EMDR to kick those Negative Nellies right in the butt!