Hey, it’s Irene here on the Dóchas blog to talk to you about managing holiday expectations.
A perfectly laid table. A meticulously decorated tree in a luxurious living room. A beaming family in matching pyjamas. Cocktail parties with artistic charcuterie boards and top-shelf drinks in crystal glasses. More than ever, we are bombarded by images of unattainable perfection and it seems to increase as the holiday season approaches. What we see on social media is edited, filtered and staged, and yet we often hold ourselves in comparison. While the holidays can certainly be joyous, for many of us the holidays bring up insecurities, anxiety, and grief. If it is often the season of exhaustion, family drama and financial stress. How can we navigate this season well?
Consider What Brings You Joy
As we move into the holiday season it is important to consider our expectations of ourselves and our loved ones. Rather than staging the perfect shot for Insta, invest that time and energy into doing something that soothes you or nurtures connection.
Examine your traditions for the season. Which ones bring you joy and contentment, and which ones bring stress or pain? Maybe this year is the year to let go of the traditions that are no longer serving you. Is carting the kids around to multiple grandparents for dinner exhausting and resulting in meltdowns? Consider planning a day at home and invite special people to join you there instead. Perhaps, hosting complicated holiday parties is consuming your time and money and leaving you depleted. Maybe a more casual gathering will allow you and your guests to relax and enjoy the event.
Have Realistic Expectations
It is important to have realistic expectations of your loved ones. Expect that kids will have meltdowns, couples will argue or feel tension, and emotions may run high at times. Be proactive. Sometimes, a packed schedule of seasonal events is simply too much. Sit down with your family and schedule downtime and alone time, and honour that time. Ensure there are opportunities to take a break from the sensory overload (sounds, smells, temperature, visual input) that can come with “fun” events. Plan in advance where you or the kids can go to get a moment of quiet to support self-regulation.
Be Present
Consider taking a break from social media if possible. Not only can this offer a reprieve from unrealistic expectations and comparison, but it allows us to be more present in our lives. Increasing our mindfulness can allow us to find moments of joy, gratitude and contentment in the midst of what can be a busy and stressful time. If you find you want some extra guidance on your journey with managing holiday expectations, reach out to us at Dóchas Psychological Services by email (info@dochaspsychologicalservices.com) or by phone at (780-446-0300). Take care and happy holidays!
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