Hey, it’s Sierra on the blog. Do you feel like you’re supposed to have it all figured out in your twenties, but instead, you’re just trying to keep your head above water? If the answer is yes, you’re not alone.
As someone who once felt hopeless but now wakes up filled with immense gratitude, I’m here to help you navigate this confusing yet pivotal time in your life.
Your twenties are often painted as the best years of your life – a time of freedom, excitement, and self-discovery. But what if, instead of feeling empowered, you’re left questioning who you really are and what you truly want? That’s exactly what we’ll explore together in this post – you’re not alone.
Reflecting on External Expectations
One of the biggest challenges I faced was realizing how much of my life was shaped by what I thought others wanted from me. I was so busy trying to be what everyone else expected from me that I lost sight of what I wanted for myself. Have you ever felt that way?
Taking a step back and really examining whose expectations I was trying to meet was eye-opening. It made me realize that some of the goals I was chasing weren’t even mine – they were shaped by others. When I started asking myself “What do I really want?” it was like a light bulb went off. That simple question helped me start peeling back the layers of who I was supposed to be and become who I really am.
Embracing your Authentic Self in Your Twenties
Reconnecting with my authentic self has been a journey, and it’s ongoing. I started by exploring interests that I had put on the back burner—things that sparked joy when I was younger but had forgotten about as I got caught up in the grind of adult life. It felt like meeting an old friend again – someone you didn’t realize you missed so much.
Journaling became a big part of this process for me. There’s something powerful about putting pen to paper and letting your thoughts flow. I started asking myself questions like, “What truly excites me?” and “What am I afraid of?”. The answers didn’t always come easily, but the act of writing helped me uncover parts of myself I had lost touch with.
Letting Go of Perfectionism
Oh, perfectionism – that old frenemy. I used to think that if I could just be perfect, everything would fall into place. Instead, chasing perfection left me feeling exhausted and inadequate. It took time, but I eventually realized that perfection is an illusion, and it was robbing me of my self-worth.
Letting go of perfectionism has been a game-changer. Instead of beating myself up over mistakes, I’ve learned to embrace them as part of my growth. It’s not about being flawless—it’s about being real.
Finding Your People in Your Twenties
Another thing that’s made a huge difference for me is building a supportive community.
Life can feel lonely when you’re going through big changes, especially when it seems like everyone else has it all figured out. But finding people who truly get you, who support you without judgment, is like finding a lifeline.
Whether it’s old friends who’ve been there through thick and thin or new connections that bring fresh energy into your life, relationships can be a cornerstone of your journey to self-discovery. They can remind you that you are not in this alone.
Practicing Self-Compassion
Through all the twists and turns, one of the most important lessons I’ve learned is the power of self-compassion. There have been so many times when I’ve been my own harshest critic, but I’ve come to realize that being kind to myself – especially in moments of doubt – makes all the difference.
I’ve started practicing mindfulness – taking a few minutes each day to breathe and acknowledge where I’m at without judgment. It’s helped me stay grounded and more connected to who I am at my core.
If there’s one thing I want you to take away from this, it’s that rediscovering yourself in your twenties is a process. It’s not about finding all the answers right now; it’s about being curious, asking questions, and allowing yourself the space to grow.
Be patient with yourself. Trust that even when you feel lost, you’re on the right path. You’re exactly where you need to be, and that’s a beautiful place to start.
Journal Prompts for Self-Discovery
What are some expectations I feel pressured to meet? Are these really my own, or are they influenced by others?
When was the last time I felt truly at peace with who I am? What contributed to that feeling?
What values and morals are most important to me, and how can I live in alignment with them?
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