Being alone when a relationship ends may feel like the world has shifted on its axis. There are many emotional challenges to be faced, and it may feel like a sense of your identity is lost. The longer a relationship, the more emotionally intertwined you probably were, which may leave a void that can be hard to fill. Some people neglect their physical well-being when coping with the end of a long-term relationship, which can further contribute to feelings of isolation and loneliness. It is not just about missing that person but also about adjusting to the new reality of your life. 

I’m Alessandra, and I’d like to explore how this period of solitude can be a time of profound personal growth. The key is working to fully and adequately resolve any emotions to allow for new opportunities. Watch the video for more details!

Finding Peace in Being Alone

• Embrace the Emotions: It is important to acknowledge the various emotions such as pain and sadness that come with the end of a relationship. Accepting is a big step, as it allows you to feel our emotions in ways that are comfortable for you. This includes writing down your thoughts, crying if you need to, talking with friends, or simply just allowing yourself to grieve. I even suggest listening to that one sad song that allows you to feel the emotion and gives you a good cry that brings relief. 

• Reconnect with Yourself: Often in relationships, it is easy to lose sight of yourself as you focus solely on the other person. Thus, taking the time to rediscover yourself and what makes you unique, happy, and independent fosters new opportunities. 

• Seek Support: Sometimes just having someone to listen is enough. Feeling isolated can make the process of moving on more difficult, so don’t be shy to reach out and seek care from others. 

• Focus on Self-Care: Do something nice for yourself. It is especially important that through difficult times we take care of our physical and mental health. For example, practices such as meditation or yoga may help to manage any increased emotions, such as stress or anxiety. Being present in the moment and observing our thoughts and feelings without judgment empowers us to preserve and be confident as individual’s. 

• Create New Routines: Self-care may include creating a new routine that focuses on building new habits that better you day to day. It is the small actions like cooking a nice meal for yourself or going for evening walks that help you adjust to your new life on your own. Sometimes it is just a matter of trying new things to help break you out of your comfort zone, rebuilding self-trust. This also helps to ensure you aren’t rebounding or jumping into a new relationship immediately after. 

• Reflect and Learn: Every relationship teaches us something about ourselves and what we need in a partner. As we reflect on what worked, and what didn’t we are better able to act in accordance with our authentic selves. In some cases, this helps to build and rediscover that parts of yourself that may have been missing before. 
• Look forward: It is important to remember that being alone now doesn’t mean you will be alone forever. This is just one chapter in your life and while it may feel difficult it is also an opportunity for growth and self-discover. As we look forward, we concentrate on building our network and refilling our time with those that support our needs.

Final Thoughts 

This period of transition may feel overwhelming, but it also holds the potential for deep personal growth. Healing takes time, and the journey forward isn’t always linear. Be patient with yourself as you navigate being alone. You are not defined by your past relationships—you are whole on your own.

If you’re struggling with feeling alone after your breakup, please feel free to reach out to Dóchas at 780-446-0300 or info@dochaspsych.com. Book an in-person (Spruce Grove) or virtual (across Alberta) appointment with one of our therapists here.

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